Friday, November 11, 2011

My Date with a Doctorate Student

My dating life is going down the hole. It's true. I have dated two incredibly younger boys (see post below) and now I am dating a man that has no spare time. I am definitely doing the chasing in this relationship. It's totally worth it, this guy is hot!

About our date; the mood was set. We had a roaring fire, a big comfy blanket, a book of poetry by a world renowned poet, sparkling bubbly and candy covered chocolate. The night was ours to spend together, just the two of us. It was a movie magic night...

Well, it could have been, if we really used our imagination caps...

The mood was set: At the kitchen table, dishes in the sink, computers, and homework
Roaring fire: full screen
Big Comfy Blanket: I was the only one in the blanket since I can't seem to get warm between the months of October and May
Book of Poetry: A Light in the Attic by Shel Silverstein, enough said.
Sparkling Bubbly: Powerade Zero and Water (that had been sitting for a bit so there were bubbles on the side of the glass)
Candy Covered Chocolate: plain M&M's (totally gross with the flavor of Powerade, bleh)
The night to spend: Ya, he is working on a big project due the next day.

It was still time spent together, maybe not undivided time, but I got to sit next to my honey and just be. Plus I totally revisited some of my childhood memories by reading A light in the Attic.

This was a date to remember...

Saturday, October 29, 2011

A date with a 5 year old and a 3 year old

I took my kiddies out on a date. Just me and the boys. It was really entertaining. We went to a restaurant called Rumbi, its really good Hawaiian style food. The whole reason I went out was because I was thinking about what to have for dinner and the thought hit me. I could go to Rumbi's order a full bowl eat some for dinner and then eat the rest for breakfast. Lets just say I was craving the food.

Me: So Spay, where are you from?
Spay: Seriously mom?
Me: Yeah where are you from?
Spay: Home, duh!
Me: What do you do?
Spay: At night I go to sleep, but on school days I go to school and play
Me: What are you studying?
Spay: I am studying to listen to my teacher.
Me: Oh sounds fun

Me: So Math where are you from?
Math: Why did the duck cross the road?
Me: What do you do?
Math: You are supposed to say "I don't know, why?" mom
Me: I don't know, why?
Math: Because he wanted to get squished
Me: Math that was funny
Math: Why did the duck cross the road...?

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

SPOILER ALERT: I know the ending...

They split the prize money between the top four finalist of each heat and they all lived happily ever after...

Can I really write about this since it happened a over a month ago.  I guess it doesn't matter, its my blog. I went to the demolition derby with several of my family members. (Super awesome fun) We had a great time watching, then someone flipped over and we had almost all the energy sucked out of us. Then it came back, just in time for the power outage to end it all. Of course for those of you who know, my family is very stubborn when it comes to rain. We will stick it out no matter what, but why? I mean we never actually play when its all over. (Remember Deer Creek my family?)

I didn't actually take any pictures with the regular camera, I was busy video recording things. I did sit next to a professional photographer, Heather from Cook Photography. Check her blog soon to see if the pictures are up. (I will update this later so it goes directly to her website page with the pictures on it) I am excited to see them soon.
We had a fun flip over but the guy didn't have a roll bar so it crushed his cab. It took forever to get him out. I do feel a bit guilty for cheering when he went over because he could have been hurt, but when I found out he was okay, that went away. Nonetheless my younger sis took a picture of us being guilt ridden...

So how did I find out how it all ended? I have recently communicated with some guy on Youtube who was a driver in the first heat. He said they split the money between the 3 heat winners since the power went out. I just felt like I couldn't really blog about this until I knew how it all ended.

  • I was there too, it took forever to get him out. Sucked the excitement out of the air. Still, glad he was okay.
  • @zlachica Yeah I totally agree I guess it was better to end the show by power outage than by death or serious injury. I drove the pacman #23 suburban in the 1st heat.
  • @djclue1987 Was there a winner? I always wondered how they determined the "final" winner that night. Don't you get money for winning? I was cheering for #31 (because he stalled in front of my seat, and he responded to my cheering) but I remember your car because it had a video game reference on it.
  • @zlachica Yeah my truck was in the same round (heat) as #31. I have a video of it, in my other videos. The winners do get money. They take the top 3 winners from each round and give them money. The top 4 from each round advanced to the championship round, but because of the power outage they just split the winnings 12 ways to all the drivers who would have been in the championship round.

Friday, October 14, 2011

Jumping the Gun and Not as Fat

So we had a cold spell, not that I would know since getting back from Alaska I have been in bed with the flu and stomach flu. Seriously I thought I was going to die. Anyway, I saw through the crack in my door that it has started turning cold. Not only did I curse Alaska for giving me such a bad illness, I cursed it because I thought I had missed the last of the warm weeks in Logan. So I have been sick sick sick. Funny thing, you can still shop online when you are sick, so I did. I bought some snow clothes for the kiddies and me, seeing that I was about to experience winter without any warning. Well I bought snow pants. If you recall I plan on going skiing A LOT this winter, and my old ski pants were pre baby, pre chubby, pre married life. They didn't fit me again after having baby number 1 and I don't think I would fit in them again seeing that I haven't properly exercised in a very long time. So I ordered new pants. Okay okay long story, I ordered the XL because it seemed reasonable. My old pants are size large, they don't fit, my new pants should be XL. Well what I forgot was when I bought my old pants I was 18, they came from the junior section. So my new pants are HUGE! Which is a huge boost to my self esteem, (not as fat as I thought I was la la la) but now I have to return them to an online store. For those of you who know me, and for those of you who don't, I hate returning things to stores and I absolutely loathe returning things through the mail. They are still sitting on the box doing nothing, as I am doing nothing with them... anyone want to buy them from me?
Well now things are absolutely beautiful outside and I am able to get out of bed and enjoy it. Maybe I was too pessimistic in buying those pants early, but it's better to be prepared. Am I right or am I right? Right?

Friday, September 16, 2011

The most Dramatic, Interesting, Next Chapter Ever!

I have a small problem... I like watching entire television series into the wee hours of the morning. Its not just TV shows, it's books, and video games too. Why can't I stop after 1 episode? Why can't I just turn it off and walk away? AHHHH! I am so tired.
I like mornings, but just because I stay up until 6 AM does not make me a morning person. I have always been a night owl. I prefer staying up late to getting up early. I just take it too far sometimes.
For instance, just yesterday/today I finished a television series. We don't have any sort of cable so I watch television shows online or on DVD, therefore I can watch the whole series and all the episodes at once. I can't help it, it's a crazy cycle. The last episode ends on a cliff hanger, then I say to myself (in my mind) I will only watch the first five minutes of the next episode, to see what happens with the cliff hanger, but by the time I look up I am already 30 minutes into it. Ahhhh! Then I usually only have 15 minutes left so why not finish it and then it ends on another cliffhanger AGAIN... I seriously did that cycle SEVEN times last night. Yes, that is seven hours, I am really pathetic. I do this with books too, just a couple paragraphs of the next chapter and then NINE chapters later I am still reading. JOY!
The crazy part about all of this, it's not the hours, it's the fact that I have such an urgency and excitement to finish off the drama/book then I feel sad at the end (regardless of the ending being happy or sad.) It's like having to say goodbye to a very good friend, like coming home from an incredible vacation, like realizing that life is actually quite dull in comparison. I miss my superficial, imaginary friends I made on the show. I miss the adventures and the all knowingness of their lives. I miss the world where magic really happens and love is as great as a musical montage.

Ready for a long night, not shown is my food and drink stash...

So now I am utterly exhausted, trying to figure out how to function in reality.  I constantly think of my new, really great friends and their really great story. Then I come to a realization, I have a pretty great life because of the steady routines and the love of my family. YEAH for dramas and great books. But really YEAH for my own life and lack of drama... I am one step closer to being completely content.

Monday, September 5, 2011

Cool Pool Party la la la

And so marks the end of the summer... why you ask? Well, it's because the Logan Aquatic Center is officially closed... sob and cry... scream at the sky... Why the dramatics? Well, when am I not dramatic? I love summer, I love the heat, I love wearing my Chacos, I LEARNED to love my swimming suit...

I spent a lot of time, this summer, at the pool. I went with some cute ladies to water aerobics, which had a  super spastic instructor.  I played in the sun with my kiddies a lot. I hung out with some great friends. I got sunburned twice, but my kiddies stayed beautifully white. I don't understand that about me, I slather on several coats of sunscreen on the kids and somehow seem to forget to put it on me. Duh!
photo by Kate

As is with everything I finally got our beach bag figured out on the last trip there.

Stuff found in the beach bag:
Swim Diapers
Lip Balm Sunscreen
Hair Ties
Boca Clips
Pool Toys
Candy: for friends your with and friends you make
Water Bottles
Extra Money

I spent most of my time in the kiddie pool, which is huge, but I got a lot of exercise in the deep end. I never went down the "super fast" slide, but I got a lot of runs on the "twisty and slidey" slide. Thank you Logan Aquatic Center for the fabulous moments we had at the pool. I will definitely see you next year! Good bye summer, I already miss you...

PS I never made a video while at the pool. Maybe next year when I am in totally awesome shape... probably not.

Saturday, August 27, 2011

Nature sizzles with crazy beautiful

The hills are alive with... Oh what a beautiful morning oh what a beautiful day...  Woke up with yawn it's dawning... Sweet Caroline ba ba ba...  High on a mountain top...
These are just some of the songs that went through my head when I was camping at Tony Grove. Sometimes life is very interesting when a song is added. Sometimes the scenery can get songs in your head and sometimes these songs pop out of your mouth really loud... well anyway they say that a picture is worth a thousand words so I will stop now...

A side note about camping: I never share forks, straws, food, drinks or anything with my kiddies. Sometimes I will throw out a whole dish of food because someone stuck a dirty spoon in. Sometimes I will literally throw up because something got into my drink before I finished drinking it. I can't even pour cereal without inspecting the bowl first. Somehow, when I am camping, my cleanliness paranoia flies out the proverbial window. It's never life altering, I revert back to my true ways, with a passion, when we get home.

For everyone that I have been talking to since getting back, I am NOT sorry that I have been gushing about Tony Grove. I love that place, it was beautiful, peaceful, and fun. I plan on going back for a nice hike around the lake before it snows. I want to climb the rocks and play in the water. I want some new picture perfect moments. This place was incredible. I am going camping again but that will have to wait until next summer, but it's a wait that's worth it.  

Sunday, August 14, 2011

Everything Melts

Everything has the potential to melt, metal, chocolate, ice. I know my kids melt. They seem to melt when it's hot, when they are tired, when they are hungry, when they want candy, when there are lots of people around, when I am on the phone, when I am trying to have an adult conversation with someone, when I try to set up an appointment, etc etc etc. So it really shouldn't have been a surprise when they melted at the County Fair yesterday. It was combination of many things, it was hot, they were tired, there were lots of people around, and they wanted candy. Pure family joy!

The clip below is like a slide show, press play and then keep reading.  
There isn't any music and it shows most of the stuff we saw at the fair.
I didn't put this movie together so you don't have to watch it if you don't want to.

You see, I am sick. I have been for a while. I have this stupid summer cold. How am I supposed to treat a summer cold? Its totally lame. Its hot! I mean you can't eat soup, you can't cuddle under a blanket, and I can't keep the kids inside for long. It just doesn't work. Also with this cold I have what you call potential energy. POTENTIAL! That's it. When I have laid around all day I feel that I can get up and go go go! I can't, but the potential is there. That's why I thought that after nearly the whole day of rest I could go the the Cache County Fair. Oh so wrong. WRONG WRONG WRONG!

I get there and immediately I am tired. The heat is suppressive, the smell is pungent. The boys are really happy and excited to get out of the house. We go the fire station booth. They are so happy to have plastic firemen hats. We keep walking, they are handing out a lot of free stuff. We see huge tractors. <<warning first tantrum>>> The tractors had signs on them "please stay off, do not climb" Spay was very upset. I did let him sit in a tire but he still wasn't too happy. 
This is the only place we took any pictures that day...

Then we walked around the animals (now would be a good time to check on the video, then come back.) The animals were hot, we were hot. The animals stunk, we didn't. It was interesting to see all the animals. After we were done with all the live stock we started walking around the booths again, where we got COTTON CANDY! <<warning second tantrum>> This was my second cotton candy treat this summer, but because I am sick it wasn't that good. So sad. Well we bought one GIANT cone to share. Math started crying, then he started jumping and crying, then he started yelling. What?!? Oh yeah, he wanted his own. Ummm no, well actually yes. I really love cotton candy and I thought that I would share with Math and Ko would share with Spay. Math is a gross eater and guess what, he got his own. 

I could go on and on and on AND on about all the joyous episodes my kids had. The one about not going on the rides, the one about not buying the stupid toy, the one about not wanting to go home, the one about not wanting to hold my hand while we crossed the street, the one where I was being mean to his brother. And on and on and on. I could tell you that by the time we had gotten dinner I was ready to go back to bed or sleep on the grass at the fair. I could tell you that it was a great event and you should go. 

That last one is kind of a lie. I think that there were people were enjoying themselves. Ko loved it, it brought back a lot of happy memories for him. As for me, if I have so much as a sniffle next year, I am staying home. Ko can go enjoy his trip down memory lane and all of the many many many tantrums adventures with the boys. 

Cache County Fair, may you have a good rest. Hopefully by next year I will have forgotten this day and visit you again. So long!

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Saturday is a Special Day, its the Day You Make Yourself Exhausted...

The Saturday morning started very late, because I felt like sleeping in. A friend came by while I was still sleeping and gave me some Wisconsin cheese. I know what you are thinking, I live in Cache Valley, it has its own cheese company (actually there are three companies that I know of here.) However there is just something so good about Wisconsin cheese. Thanks kmfm! I am still a little embarrassed that I was still asleep when you came over.

So in the afternoon we decide to take a hike up to the Wind Caves. This is probably the most popular trail and the most hiked trail. Why? Maybe because it actually has a destination. I don't know, it's really hard!  (Tangent start: I know this is popular because I knew about this hike the first month I lived here. I can usually tell when something is really popular because I have heard about it. For those of you who don't know me, I am really out of the loop on a lot of things. :Tangent done) So we went for a hike.

Normally the kids are really good hikers. They hardly rest and basically run up mountains. But man oh man did they need a lot of pit stops. I was really frustrated and ready to turn around after about 100 yards into the hike. I mean really did they need their fruit snacks right there... okay I thought we had enough snacks, but they ended up eating mine and when I am hungry lets just say I may get slightly mean and irritable. Lesson learned, go hiking after eating pasta and take lots and lots and lots of snacks.

We made it, barely. When we got to the top, it was so anti climatic. I really wanted a brass band to be playing a congratulations song. After everything we had been through to get there I wanted to celebrate and cry at the same time. It took us three hours up and one hour down. A four hour round trip, this wasn't a hike it was an outing. I can guarantee that neither Ko or I thought it was going to take that long. Then to make matters a little more crazy we had a date planned that night. We had left our house in a complete and utter mess. Meaning we had to run down the mountain, go home, shower, eat, clean up the house, pick up the babysitter, then make it to the Utah Festival Opera Co presentation of OLIVER before they locked the doors. We made it, barely.

During intermission Ko leaned over to me and said, "I recognize a lot of these songs even though I have never seen this before." Then I replied, "Maybe because I sing them A LOT at home." Yep back in the day (3rd possibly 4th grade) I was in the play Oliver along with basically the entire school. I got to play a part for one scene. I was Nancy when she threatens to turn in everyone and hang with them. I messed up the line really bad. But when that part came on during the play, I was really excited because I really did remember the lines. It was so fantastic to see, I am very pleased with the performances! Bravo UFOC!

I wish we had gone to more plays. It's just that the plays are really expensive if you want semi decent seats. We did go to two plays one year and bought balcony seats. Never never never will I sit in the balcony again. The seats are so close together. I made the mistake of wearing a skirt and guess what, if the guy in front of me turned around it would be a very nice close up view up my skirt. So we have decided we will go to one play and sit in the orchestra seats, no matter how far away we sit. I also wear dress pants too. I could go on and on and on about that Saturday. It was incredibly crazy. I think I need to limit myself to ONE activity a day. At least while the kids are young! 

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Not in the local paper? Then where?

Pioneer Day is a Utah state holiday. I looked through the local paper to see if Logan was doing anything, nothing. I looked on to see if there was anything going on, nothing. Then when I bring in the morning paper today it says "Women honors fallen Marine during Pionner Day parade." Uh yeah, stupid Logan how is anyone supposed to know about such celebrations without any form of announcements? No wonder people think there is nothing to do here, Logan never lets us in on the secret. Well whatever, the rant is over...

What we did for Pioneer Day was a lovely family bike ride on USU campus. Last Saturday our oldest kiddie learned to ride a bike without training wheels. He is a natural. Now all he wants to do is ride bikes, which is just brilliant for me since I have been dreaming of this day forever. It was one of those very content moments. Forget the parade, a bike ride was all I needed.

USU is great for riding bikes because the campus actually encourages it. The sidewalks are large, there is hardly any traffic, there are big and small hills, and the Logan city bus system will actually carry your bikes to campus for you. Awesome. USU is a great campus, but when school is in session its best to only come on the weekends or holidays, otherwise its like a stampede of Aggies getting from class to class. Just something to consider.

We were riding bikes all over campus for 2 hours. The kids were tired, but when we said it was time to go they were really sad. We got them out of there by bribing them with Pita Pit and Cold Stone for dinner. Thanks to some gift cards we got (thanks mom and dad), we were able to eat three servings on Cold Stone and three pita's for $4. Oh yeah it was a great day. To spend quality time with the family is really the best celebration ever. 

A vlog of the afternoon is coming soon. Check my youtube channel within the next couple days. 

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Sidewalk Sale la la la Sidewalk Sale

We are now officially poorer than when this month started. We went to the "Great American Sidewalk Sale" Why they call it the "Great American" is beyond me.  Sure it's in America, and America is great, but really, we are in Utah, Logan for that matter, and not very many stores actually participate. Plus, its only in historic downtown Logan as opposed to regular downtown Logan. Well whatever, the sale prices were cheap and just to my liking. Unfortunately we spent more because it cost less. Sigh, the money was just burning a whole in my pocket, and I just felt obliged to spend it.

 Let it be known that I have been looking forward to this sale since last years got over. This is an annual sale that happens the second weekend of July. I was so excited to go that I made Ko take a half day of work so we could all go shopping. Plus he was looking for a new mountain bike and he had all but decided. Don't worry we got one at a killer deal at The Sportsman, seriously!

So how do I write this without it actually sounding like a giant advertisement? I have no idea. It just will since we went to lots of stores and spent lots of money.  We gave the kiddies $5 to spend on whatever they wanted, and they found some zhu zhu pets for $2.50 each at Coppins Hallmark. They were so excited they have been playing with them everyday since. Seriously cheap huh? We also bought a silk, day-glo green tie for Ko that only cost $5 at the Kater Shop. That's just how good a deal things are down there. See things are too cheap that we end up spending a lot more than we meant to.

I meant to make a vlog of it, but I still have a bit of shyness about recording myself in public places. I really wanted to but I am just not a mega narcissist yet. Someday :)
So now I am looking forward to next years "Great American Sidewalk Sale" in historic downtown Logan. Don't forget to add the historic, they get really mad if you don't! ;)

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Mr Raindrop Falling Away From Me Now

It rained today and it just felt like this song was what it's all about. Crazy Logan weather!

Don't blame me if you are singing this song later today. Its just that fun!

Monday, July 4, 2011

Cache Valley Cruise In, such a "Drag"

Lets see. We didn't go to the actual car show. I wouldn't. It was too expensive for my taste. Okay so the prices were probably cheap compared to other car shows but it was such a gap. Kids 5-17 were $1 but older than 17 was $8. What a huge price gap. I think it was too much. I don't think they should raise the price for the kids but I think they should lower the price for adults. Well, I guess I am not willing to pay to look at silly cars I know little about while the car owner stares at me. So we went to the free parade. When I say parade I mean the cool cars drag main street for an hour and a half, then after, people in their normal cars drag main. Yep. welcome to Logan where people still drag main on Saturday nights.

During this awesome interesting dull parade (they didn't even throw candy) it was really hot! I mean I was sweating at the base of my head, in the crook of my arms, and in between my toes. So when I was ready to leave I got a big speech from Spay that we had to wait until he took a picture of his favorite car.

After I turned off the camera I got a little bit more of an explanation, "the black car with the lady in it." And here it is folks, the car we had to wait another 15 minutes to see. The photo was taken by Spay.

Check out my vlog video. I took a twenty minute loop and chopped it down to just under 5 minutes. Don't watch it in full screen, the camera work is terrible. Seriously. Okay so I am not a car lover, but still this is something that happens in Logan. Gotta love summer in Logan.

Sunday, July 3, 2011

Freedom Fire Fireworks for Free

Freedom isn't free, neither are seats at a fireworks show. The big fireworks show in Logan this year was really expensive. I mean it jumped from last years price of $7 to $45 a seat. I remember last year complaining how expensive it was, oh man I miss those days. Now, honestly, if the prices stay that high I don't think we will ever make it into the stadium. What's the point when you can do it on the cheap. Oddly this is what most locals did, watched the fireworks from outside the stadium.

We actually made our way to a place called Aggie Village; it's student housing for USU and it's a parking lot away from the stadium. Sweet! All along 1400 North and down to about 600 East there was a patch work of blankets laid out for most of the day. I mean there are some people who are dedicated fireworks watchers who don't actually want to pay. Anyway so we went to Aggie Village and saw a lot of friends hanging out and having fun. Something interesting is, not one person I have spoken with actually went. Most all my pals watched from various parts of Logan. Too funny! Best line of the night, Math with his ears securely covered with less than two minutes into the show, "I want to go back home! (cry a little)"
I made an accidental vlog of it. Actually it was filmed from my phone and its just the finale. Then it just seemed reasonable to upload it onto youtube. If you watch it here is a warning. I am screaming! It is so loud and annoying. I couldn't hear myself scream during the fireworks but the phone picked it up and drown out the booming of the fireworks. Just turn it down and play Katy Perry's Fireworks or maybe Neil Diamond's Coming to America. Just something patriotic. It was a great show and it was free. I think I mentioned before that I like free.

Monday, June 27, 2011

Dam like stopping water

I am not a good writer. I am not a fast rider. I like to read and ride. Hmm... what else? People gathered in Logan for a good cause and to ride serious miles on their bikes. I like making obnoxious noises involving microphones. I like to support those who work really hard for a good cause. I like to cheer, I have the potential to be a cheerleader for any cause. I really enjoyed cheering for the riders of the Best Dam Bike Ride MS 150. 
We were encouraged to bring noise makers to celebrate the accomplishment of the riders. What do you get when you download an app called "air horn" and someone offers you the microphone? You get a great noise maker! I am not one to shy away from a microphone. It was brilliant! 
I got a free t-shirt, actually I got 2 free t-shirts. I like free. I got 2 free snow cones too. I got free lunch and 2 free water bottles and 2 free super hero capes. Everything just came in 2's that day. I got all this stuff because I was a volunteer who cheered. 
I was supposed to be there to hand out free stuff and cheer the riders. I ended up cheering for the riders. I was good at that. I am good at that. Next year I want to... well we will see what happens.

Check our their website for more info: 

Oh oh oh check out my vlog too:

Sometimes this world can seem pretty crappy and crazy. But when I watched over 4000 riders finish the course for a good cause I was just so happy. There really are great people around and I got to hang out with some really good riders. I really do like to ride!

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Cotton Candy, er... I mean Summerfest!

Cotton Candy, the best candy there is. The perfect summer candy, its just sooooo good. I only get cotton candy three times a year, all in the summer because winter cotton candy just doesn't make sense. The first cotton candy experience was at Summerfest. What is Summerfest you say? Well I guess that depends on who you ask. For me it means cotton candy, but for others its an art festival where lots of artist try and sell their stuff. So I guess its an outdoor gallery of artists at the tabernacle with cotton candy. There is also some sort of "jury" involved, but being the common folk that I am I have no idea what that is. Here is their website, and it says that it is a juried art festival. Whatever, for me it was chance to eat outside, eat cotton candy, do "art" with the kids, and walk around looking at creative and beautiful paintings. There is something uniquely fun about eating overpriced food during a festival, I don't know what it is.
We went on Thursday and got our lunch right off. Yep it was expensive, but as I said it was fun. Then we went and got cotton candy, those things were  big. It was so big I thought the kids would puke if I let them have their own, so we "shared" but I ate most of it. :D We then headed to the Children's Art Yard. I was really impressed with their set up. Its a caged off area with lots of different craft, oops I mean art projects.

It took us a while to get through them all, looking back I have no idea why. When we left the art yard they gave the children a package of goldfish, such a great idea. I had them sit in the stroller and eat their fish. Then I got to actually browse the galleries (shops) and I didn't have to worry about them breaking anything, WIN! Of course most everything was too expensive for my taste, and my favorite artist from last year was not there this year, but it was a fine piece of art experience. Someday when things are not quite so poverty here we might be able to buy that gorgeous art work... someday, but for now it's COTTON CANDY, oh yeah! Love it! Summerfest is cotton candy! Going back next year...

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

It happens here it happens there

This post is not a happy go lucky post, I read a blog post from my friend's blog. Its an account of what happened to her family yesterday. I have been thinking about it since. I am not surprised its affected me so. Its always been a sensitive and much discussed topic in my home. Check out this link please

I have fortunately never had this happen to me or my boys, but that doesn't mean it won't. All I can do is try prevent it from happening. I have a real problem with trusting people and pretty much suspect everyone. With these incidences happening so close to home it makes it that much harder to trust anyone. I am who I am and I will do everything I can to protect my family and those who are innocent. 

Also below is an article from the Church News May issue:

Ours is a most beautiful world with many wonderful people living in it. Unfortunately, in this potentially happy situation are certain grim realities. Such things as never mentioned in sensitive, reverent homes must in this day be directly addressed to protect our children. While children under 8 years of age are insulated from the temptations of Satan, they are not protected from evil. Little children, we are told, "are not capable of committing sin" (Moroni 8:8) yet they become innocent targets of those most capable of committing evil.

As many agencies report increases in sex offenses, including those by relatives, parents must again increase their vigilance. One very frequent factor in criminal offences is consumption of pornography. Pornography has become almost as frequent as profanity and it proliferates among all ages. Few informed people expect any child to grow toward adulthood without viewing lewd images. Such images come in any direction on any electronic screen, passed along on any electronic storage device.
The days when parents could avoid the subject in the hope of not fostering curiosity are gone. Indeed, avoiding the subject has brought with it a generation of addiction. The posting, and consumption, of pornography is beyond anything imaginable before the Internet.
Parents remain as the last bulwark to protect the home.
What should parents do? They must be the best parents they can be. First, they must be personally righteous. Children perceive hypocrisy at 50 paces, and they imbibe error and weaknesses as through a fire hose. Parents must always cleanse the inner vessel and face their children as transparent disciples of Christ.
In His address to the Nephites, the Savior is specific: "But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman, to lust after her, hath committed adultery already in his heart.
"Behold I give unto you a commandment, that ye suffer none of these things to enter into your heart;
"For it is better that ye should deny yourselves of these things, wherein ye will take up your cross, than that ye should be cast into hell" (3 Nephi 12:28-30, italics added).
In the Joseph Smith Translation of Matthew 16:26, Jesus explains that "For a man to take up his cross, is to deny himself all ungodliness, and every worldly lust, and keep my commandments."
The importance of reliance on Jesus Christ, our Savior, Friend and Protector, cannot be overstated. Being in a position to hear and courageously act upon the guidance of the Holy Spirit will "level the playing field" and help us to rear children of strength in these troubled times.
Emphasize the basics, as are constantly mentioned by Church leaders and included in Church publications: personal and family prayer, scripture reading, regularly attending Church and the temple, fulfilling Church callings and keeping the commandments. If a family is struggling, nearly always a re-emphasis of these basics will improve the situation. Observing these basics will also help a family hold the bar high regarding what is viewed in the home.
Parents must spend time with their children. They must nurture so close a relationship with each child that the child will confide in the parent when some immoral conduct is encountered. Frequently ask about their day, their friends, good things that happened and if something bad came along.
If a response seems to warrant further questions, they needn't foster curiosity, but should reflect on what has happened with the intent of having a prevention and escape plan in place. Teach children that confiding in their parents is Step 1 in combating negative influences. Teach children that inappropriate viewing is evil and dangerous.
Questions for young children may be: Did you see something that should have been covered up? Did you feel uncomfortable? Did you see something your mother would not want you to see?
Older children might be asked more specific questions to learn if viewing occurred, when was the last time, or if someone acted out or hoped to lead them into sinful actions.
When parents discover something, they need not show surprise or act horrified, but take it in stride to the degree that communication lines remain open, and the issue is properly addressed.
Emphasizing personal responsibility is more effective than preaching in these situations. Nurture the Spirit, in such ways as listening to conference talks, good music, reading inspiring literature or serving others. In family discussion, apply gospel truths to current situations, teach by example about meaningful prayers and discuss the workings of the Holy Spirit.
These are important ways to combat the fiery temptations that increase in strength as children increase in years.
Mothers are effective at communicating with children about avoiding temptations. A mother's intuition and relentless love are important tools in helping young men — and to a lesser but nonetheless real degree, young women — avoid or recover from addiction to pornography. Fathers also play an important role in helping children navigate mortality and avoid the devastating consequences of pornography, especially by their example.
Protect against abuse by knowing your children well enough to notice a sudden change in behavior. When a happy, outgoing child becomes silent and inward, an investigation is warranted. Physical threats almost always accompany abuse.
To protect their children from the adversary, parents must have such a close relationship with God and each child that they will know what is happening in that child's world, inculcate prevention against pornography and sex crimes as you would with drugs, and be eternally vigilant.
Parents, our precious children are at risk.